Ask yourself before it's too late.

Chantal Gerber is the co-founder of Want2Discover, a self-development project.

You can close this article right now, pretend that you have never seen it, and live on as you lived. But when do you plan to challenge yourself to live a bigger, more meaningful, more fulfilled, and more meaningful life?

You see, many of us live on autopilot. We no longer direct the course of our lives, but become part of standard schemes and routines. And what is most unpleasant, we begin to be satisfied with this comfort, we stop pushing ourselves towards a more meaningful life. If you're feeling like you're living on autopilot, then it's probably time to ask yourself a few questions. important issues— which we often avoid because they can push us out of our comfort zone. But it's never too late to change the course of your life. And the questions from the list below are the first step to realizing what you need to change and what to act differently. But be sure to answer honestly and don't be afraid of complex, conflicting emotions - this is just what you need to push yourself to make much-needed changes.

1. Do you like the person you have become?
2. What will people say about you at your funeral?
3. What will you regret not doing in your life?
4. What is the wisest thought you have ever heard?
5. What have you learned from your personal bitter experience?
6. How often do your strongest anxieties and fears come true?
7. If you had a year to live, what would you try to achieve?
8. Are you in the service of money, or is money in the service of you?
9. Are you afraid to be yourself around other people? Why?
10. What are you grateful for?
11. Have you recently done something that you are proud of?
12. Have you done something kind recently?
13. If you knew you were going to die tomorrow, what questions would you ask yourself?
14. If your worst fears came true, would it matter five years later?
15. How would you describe yourself?
16. Do you take other people's advice?
17. Do you get offended quickly?
18. Do you consider yourself a pleasant person?
19. “What we get ensures our existence. What we give creates our life.” What do these words of Winston Churchill mean to you?
20. Do you enrich the lives of others?
21. Are you living a meaningful life?
22. What is a meaningful life?
23. Would you give your life to save another person's life?
24. How much are you willing to sacrifice for people in poverty?
25. If you could live the same day over and over again, what would you rather do on that day?
26. Do you consider yourself important and worthy of affection and love?
27. What will help you feel like a more worthy person? What should be different about you?
28. What upsets you the most?
29. Would you agree to work less (and do what you love) and earn less?
30. What brings you peace?
31. What is the main quality you look for in others?
32. What is your main dream?
33. What is your main fear?
34. How would the world have changed if you had not been born?
35. What life lessons would you like to know ten years ago?
36. If you could say one thing to yourself when you were young, what would it be?
37. If your life were a movie, what would it be called?
38. If your life were a movie, would you enjoy watching it?
39. What does success mean to you?
40. If you could be a different person, what would you be?
41. What was the best day of your life? Why do you think so?
42. What are you most looking forward to in life?
43. What bad habits would you like to give up?
44. Who is your authority and why?
45. Do you know your partner's love language?
46. ​​Do the people you love the most know how you love them?
47. Are you satisfied with the depth of your relationships with people?
48. What do you owe yourself?
49. Given your current daily life, what do you expect to achieve in five years?
50. Do you often say "yes" when you really want to say "no"? Why?
51. What did you learn yesterday?
52. What do you like about yourself?
53. Would you call yourself a generous person?
54. When people talk to you, do you really listen?
55. What is the most important thing you need to change in your life this year?
56. How many hours a week do you spend on the Internet?
57. What are your most common negative thoughts? Do they have logic?
58. Do you think that some things are too late for you to take on? Why?
59. If you could become the most powerful person in the world, what would you change?
60. How much time do you spend with family and friends?
61. Where do you want to be in five years?
62. Do things that are not necessary complicate your life?
63. How could you simplify your life and focus on what matters most?
64. What causes you stress?
65. What makes your life easier?
66. How often do you share something without expecting something in return?
67. What is the biggest challenge in your life?
68. What is the most important thing for you in life? Are you giving it enough time?
69. If you could send a message to the whole world, what would you say in 30 seconds?
70. What do you not tell anyone about and really regret about it?
71. When was the last time you tried something new?
72. Are you afraid to express your own opinion?
73. Do you often give in to the persuasion of others, and then feel resentment and regret?
74. Do you hold on to something to leave behind?
75. How often do you let your fears keep you from taking action?
76. Do people in your life help you to show your best side?
77. How often do you dismiss others with excuses?
78. What mistake will you never make again?
79. What is worse - to fail or not to try at all?
80. What helped your personal growth more - challenges and trials or pleasant and cozy moments of life?
81. If you could make sure that there were no more challenges and obstacles in your life, would you agree to it?
82. What stands between you and your most important goal? Give the answer in one word.
83. How often do you go to bed feeling angry or angry?
84. Is it bad to steal to feed a hungry child?
85. If you paid more attention to the sad aspects of life, would you experience more internal conflicts?
86. If you learn from mistakes, why is it so bad to suffer defeat?
87. What in life could you pay more attention to?
88. Why do we think about other people the most when they are not around?
89. What does it mean to get the most out of your life?
90. In what did you give up, give up?
91. How many people do you really love and what do you do for them?
92. Do you ask enough questions, or are you happy with what you already know?
93. What were you doing the last time you lost track of time?
94. Would you be happy if you didn't have to work anymore?
95. If you could ask for one wish to come true, what would it be?
96. What inspires you in life?
97. What can you most not live without?
98. What do you like to do over and over again?
99. When was the last time you laughed until your stomach hurt?
100. What is stopping you from living the life you want to live? Hopefully, after studying these questions, your brain goes crazy with all sorts of thoughts and ideas. This is just what you need! By taking the time and effort to answer these questions, you will almost certainly find more depth in your life. If we always avoided important issues that provoke us to change our lives, nothing would change!

Walking through the archives of my magazine, I found the flash mob tag "40 questions for a beauty blogger" and answered these questions with pleasure :) The questions are a little naive, but at the same time quite funny. Since this is my first tag, I'm passing it on to anyone who wishes.

Go! :)

Facial care:

1. How many times a day do you wash your face?
Usually - 2 times, in the morning (usually with micellar water), and in the evening - with a foaming agent.

2. What type of skin do you have (dry, oily, combination)?
I have combination skin.

3. What is your current face wash?
Clarins Eclat du Jour

4. Do you exfoliate your face?
Yes. Often - with the help of a washing brush, or a konjac sponge, and courses - peelings with fruit acids (homemade, or from a beautician).

5. How many face products are currently on the shelf in your bathroom?
In sight - 28:)

6. What moisturizer do you use?
Now - cream with vitamins A and E, Librederm

7. Do you have freckles?
This year they appeared for the first time in 30 years! I don’t know whether to be happy about this or be afraid of pigmentation.

8. Do you use eye cream?
Yes, for at least 7 years. I have a very lively expression.

9. Have you had or do you currently have problematic skin?
In general, I have good skin! But there is rosacea, pores and atopic dermatitis in certain areas. However, I believe that these are medical problems, not cosmetic ones.

10. Have you ever used special treatment creams for problem skin?
Yes, but it would be better if I didn't do it :) For couperous areas I use Avene.

Makeup:

11. What foundation do you use?
Now - MAC Face and body foundation, and Lumene CC cream, in the summer I do without tonal.

12. How about a concealer/corrector?
Where without him! In active use there are about 7 of them, different in density, texture, methods of application and shades.

13. What do you think about false eyelashes?
In my opinion, this is purely carnival fun.

14. Do you know that you need to change your mascara every 3 months?
I know, but I don’t change, because I have more than 10 carcasses in my arsenal and use them in turn.

15. What brand of mascara do you currently use?
Rimmel. Oriflame, Lancome - depends on mood and tasks

16. What makeup tools do you use?
Brushes: duofiber, for foundation, corrector, powder, shadows, eyeliner, blush lips. A comb for eyebrows and eyelashes, tweezers, sponges. Look like that's it))

17. Do you use eye shadow base?
More often yes than no.

18. And for the face?
Rarely, I'm afraid to clog pores.

19. What are your favorite shadows?
I don't have any favorites because I can't really paint my eyes. If I want to “draw” I often get by with a Chinese palette of 80 colors.

20. Do you use eyeliner or eyeliner?
I use it according to my mood, but I don’t really like it, because due to the different size of the eyes, I rarely manage to draw the same arrows.

21. How often do you accidentally get eyeliner or pencil in your eyes?
Fortunately, very rarely

22. What is your favorite lipstick?
The one that ended up in the bag and I was not too lazy to make up her lips :)

23. How about lip gloss?
Hair sticks to 90% of lip glosses, which I wear loose. The remaining 10% I use in everyday make-up.

24. What are your favorite blushes?
I rarely use blush, I can’t single out my favorites.

25. Do you like mass market cosmetics?
Very! Limitless scope for creativity

26. Have you ever thought about taking a makeup course?
I am planning to go this year.

27. Are you clumsy when you put on makeup?
No, I'm smart and fast)))

28. "Makeup crime" you hate?
Eyebrow strings, sponge ducks, blue shadow pink lipstick, shadows up to the eyebrows

29. Do you like reds or neutrals?
By mood

30. Which celebrity always has great makeup?
I don't follow celebrities at all.

31. If you could leave the house using just one product, what would it be?
Mascara. Or brow gel. Do not know))

32. Could you ever leave the house without makeup?
Yes, I do occasionally. To the store, out of town, somewhere on business by car. I need cosmetics only out of habit, without it I feel naked, but I quickly adapt, like on a nudist beach)))

33. Do you think you look good even without makeup?
Yes, I'm sure of it :) I can show pictures)))

34. What do you think is the best make-up brand?
I do not know a single beauty blogger who could categorically state "the best brand of decorative cosmetics is ..". Some brands excel at certain things and fail at others.

35. What do you think about makeup in general?
A great tool to increase self-awareness and mood!

And some more questions :)

36. What are your favorite categories of cosmetics?
Prof. and organics for hair, pharmacy brands and products - for the face, cosmetics for rituals and mass-market / network cosmetics - for the body, professional, luxury and mass-market - for make-up.

37. What beauty products are you obsessed with?
Hair care, tonics, products with acids

38. How often do you buy cosmetics?
About once every 5 days. But I can go on a "cosmetic diet" :)

39. Do you like having an unlimited supply of cosmetics?
No, I don't like to languish over riches, I give away a lot

40. If you put all your makeup together, how much will you get?
Well .. for about 3-4 chests of drawers and a couple of suitcases :)

Psychology

And what do you like?

And what do you like?

A pleasant young man puzzled me with this question. I don’t know about you, it has always been extremely difficult for me to answer such questions. What do I like? At that time, I liked everything: a cozy cafe in which it was so nice to warm up after the severe Moscow frost awaiting our return, a sweet latte with cinnamon and my favorite coconut syrup, a huge brownie that didn’t scare me at all with its size, and to my companion I was not indifferent ... But they expected an answer from me.

Sun, mango and sea - that was the first thing that came to my mind. But still the question remained open for me personally.

You know, it's much easier for me to answer the opposite question. There are two things I really don't like - being late and seafood. The first - because of the inner feeling that I almost betray a person, yes, I have such quirks, the second - because of the vile smell, forgive me lovers of shrimp and other delicacies. Everything else I treated at least equally.

I really love the sun. I love when I'm hot, I like to wear light things. Although I also sincerely love my warm cozy beige sweaters. I like to drink strong black tea with honey from my huge half-liter mug. I also like green tea, always cold, and preferably with ice. I love sweet fruits, so much so that I would gladly trade my diet for a year's supply of oranges and mangoes. I love shopping, watching fashion magazines and imagining myself as one of their heroines. I love to dream and believe in the realization of my desires. I like to sleep until three in the afternoon under my soft warm blanket, and then slowly eat my favorite porridge with cherries for “breakfast”. I love my red lipsticks. I like to take care of myself and look at my beautiful reflection in the mirror. After all, I love myself...

While I was writing my entire list, some strange feeling arose inside me, very similar to happiness. You know, as a child, when you waited a whole week for the weekend to go with your parents to the carousel and drink the most delicious Coca-Cola from a glass with a straw. Such a simple and uncomplicated happiness, which, however, we often lack. It's in the little things that we don't notice most of the time. We are often told that we need to be simpler, but people tend to complicate things, and apparently it’s true: happiness is simple.

Now I’ll go and make my favorite tea, wrap myself in a cozy blanket and turn on some simple but kind movie, and I won’t think about anything - after all, this is what I love.

P.S. What do you love?

Blogs that make you think, strive for awareness and change in life

Harmony Seeker. The coolest blog about minimalism ever. No radicalism, condemnation of "those who are not with us", teachings. Just a calm statement of my experience and my views on lifestyle, helpful tips and very nice photos.

Anna Chernykh's blog. About minimalism, reasonable consumption and self-care. Anya writes about her life and how to get rid of the excess in order to make room for something more.

GoVita. On how to be yourself: seek their meanings and values, their shores. How to prefer yourself to all other roles, even when it is embarrassing, scary or painful. Vitalina repeats that being yourself is not always easy, but it is the only way to be alive. And I absolutely agree with her.

Salatshop . About how to be cheerful and healthy in a big city. My favorite health blog! Simple and clear recipes, celebrity secrets, links to useful videos. And no fitons.

Life optimization. About about organization of life and wardrobe, cost control, time planning, minimalism, decluttering and order in the head.

Projects and self-development

Just Tralala. Masha explores addiction to social networks (I follow the project “A Year Without Facebook” with interest), gets rid of the excess and learns not to buy unnecessary things. Writes great book reviews, tests ideas, meditation and sports.

inspired by life. About how to build the life of your dreams, where to get the strength for it and how to start taking action. Machine's example inspires not to whine and not to give up, but to take hold of yourself and skip to your dreams, noticing the beauty of the moment along the way and finding words of gratitude in your heart even in very, very dark times.

Let's Cook It. Julia is a food blogger who not only shares recipes and interestingly talks about the culinary habits of great writers, but also leads the Year Lived Right project and takes part in a book marathon.

Miss Happiness. Olya explores the topic of happiness and is looking for her own recipe for creating it. She writes with passion and taste about sports, various challenges like hell week, writing practices and healthy eating.

Blogging, books, business

Mann, Ivanov & Ferber Publishing Blog. I love it for the announcements of new books and excerpts from them. Every time I post a new blog post, I get the distinct feeling that anything is possible in this world.

Gophotoweb Blog. I love it for its usefulness about doing business and sites.

Start Blog Up . I love it for good blogging tips, easy delivery and superb blog brunches, the announcement of which every time makes me bite my elbows because I'm not in St. Petersburg (but, fortunately, my elbows are safe thanks to the brunch videos).

When asking a girl questions about love and relationships, you can make a lot of mistakes: most of these questions put you in the position of needy, and the girl will quickly lose interest in the guy.

What questions should not be asked?

You shouldn't ask a girl about herself. And also express a strong inappropriate compliment to the girl. This shows his insecurity and at the same time a great interest in her. There are many questions that will immediately lower your status in the eyes of a girl.

Examples of such questions:

#1 Am I sexy?

#2 How does it feel to be the most beautiful girl in town?

#3 How would you rate me on a scale of 1 to 10?

You need to ask a girl for some reason. For example, get to know her better. Understand how she relates to certain things. Or bring the conversation to a specific topic.

30 interesting questions about love and relationships

1. Do you have unfulfilled dreams? Tell about them
2. What would you choose: career or love?
3. If I cheated on you, would you forgive me?
4. Would you be able to date a guy if you knew you would never get to sleep with him?
5. What is love from your point of view?
6. Do you believe in true love?
7. What will you give me on February 23?
8. What do you usually think about before going to bed?
9. Do you believe in love at first sight?
10. When did you kiss for the first time?
11. How many times have you fallen in love in your life?
12. What was the best compliment you've ever received in your life?
13. How many children do you want?
14. Have you ever confessed your love?
15. Showed initiative in meeting a guy?
16. Do you believe in friendship between a guy and a girl?
17. What would you do if you turned into a guy for one day?
18. What do you mean by "ideal man"?
19. Who cheats more: boys or girls?
20. Do you think having sex in zero gravity is cool?
21. Suffering from unrequited love?
22. Ever cheated on your boyfriend?
23. Do you like romantics? And what is the most?
24. Did you go on a date at night?
25. Relationships can be bought with money: what do you think about this?
26. Do you prefer giving gifts or receiving them?
27. What qualities would you like to see in a loved one?
28. Do you believe in horoscopes?
29. How do you behave if you like a guy?
30. Is it easy to compromise after a fight with a young man?

Here are 30 questions you can ask a girl about love and relationships. After reading them, you can also come up with your own original ones that better relate to the situation in communication. Good luck!